Going for the gold

There is an old saying, quitters never win.
Let me just reinterpret this term, When you quit, you lose.
But what makes a quitter or a loser who didn't quit.

To define both, we need to understand who to win.
Someone who wins, is someone who trys their very best (See facing the giants the death crawl scene). You don't just train you keep your head in the game, your heart into your work, and your soul into the outcome. When you want to quit keep going, especially in training, they don't stop because they "feel tired" the push it all until they are absolutely exhausted then they go home and sleep it off and train again the next day. Slowly their strength and endurances goes up and come game day they are equipped for the battle at hand. And then a winner is the one who is pride filled but is lowly and is only lifted up by the one person in the crowd yelling their name.

A humble heart, a praticed body, a trained body, a steady soul, and a clear mind are the keys to being a winner. A quitter doesn't have these because they don't want to work to win, a loser just doesn't push themselves to the limit to accomlish what needs to be done

Bottom line: you can always push harder.
& Water is the ultimate drink for enduring everything.

Getting out of Jail time!

Seems to happen alot these days. Have money get out of jail. Have an image get away with that with the help of your money and thus people in Hollywood have been long since been getting away with crimes that normal people would be going to jail for... But not anymore

For Consequences for things have been diminished.
For instances raising kids.
In the days of my parents kids got a real beaten. The child would misbehave and be forced to go cut a switch. The kids of those days who had parents who cared where taught the naughtyness had consequences, but apparently today nothing has nasty consequences.

I'll tell you why. The children you where raised improperly, the ones who are naughty, got jealous of those of us with morals, of parents who showed their love, and cryed to our government about child abuse. You know what child abuse is? Its not when you hit a child for being naughty its for beating the kid because your a drunk or corrupt soul who gets their pleasure from making others feel pain.

Children need proper disciple. I grew my morals, my obedience to authority, my hardworking attitude, not from running free when I was young, but from gettin a spanking when I misbehaved. You stupid adults "Nancy's" Get a pair of balls and spank your kids when they misbehave. THis whole time out bull &^*@ needs to be deleted. You will always put the kid in time out for doing the same thing. Reason being they aint thinking about what they did, but how to do it again without getting caught. I know this because thats what I did when I was in "time-out"

Apparently eliminating children misbehavior consequences was not enough. Not teenagers are getting away with poor choices. Apparently its alright to sleep around with anyone. Afterall if a kid gets pregnant they can simply have the baby deleted, the get an std theirs a medication for that. "I dont want my kids to be responsible for their mistakes" OK let them become complete and utter screwballs, complete failures, complete criminals that only think about a way to do it again without getting caught.

DISCIPLIN WITH SOME PAIN IS LOVING
DISCIPLIN WITH NO PAIN PUTS THE KID IN PRISON
ELIMINATING CONSEQUENCES IS WRONG, THEY SHOULD BE MADE MORE SEVERE.

Making a relationship that lasts

 

 

Throughout their lives, people constantly search for that one person who will complete them; they look for the person to fill the hole in their soul or the person they absolutely cannot live without. Why do people search for a mate? People long to have someone they can live with; they long to never be alone. Love makes them feel complete, and ultimately makes them feel wanted or desired. The problem with peoples idea of love however, is that too many people do not understand love, or rather, they confuse love with infatuation and thus often race headlong, straight into a relational disaster. So, the big question becomes: is love and infatuation necessary for long term relationships? On the same note, which of these is the more necessary of the two, in order to have a long term relationship? Not to give away the rest of the paper, but yes these two are important for a long term relationship, but as to which one requires more emphasis, that is the surprise that will be answered later. One more thing to remember, before we get started with the battle of good and evil (that is infatuation vs. love), love is as follows: "Love is a decision, one that gets made over and over (Miller, Mark)." Thus, it is important to understand how infatuation and true love differ from each other. By knowing the differences, one can make a better judgment when it comes to long term decisions like marriage, but first the symptoms and definitions of each term are necessary to clear up all the fuzzy and confusing details of these two misunderstood terms.

Infatuation, as defined by dictionary.com is: "the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love; addictive love." Addictive love is having that longing to be with someone and have them consume your thoughts. The best way to understand infatuation, after understanding the definition, is to look at the common symptoms which are overemphasized in rushed relationships. Some of the symptoms of infatuation are: "feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealousy (Is what I'm feeling infatuation)." Zeroing in and focusing on the symptoms and definitions of infatuation, reveals that: relationships start with infatuation, but should there be a heavy emphasis upon it in the relationship? Sadly, in my time I have seen too many relationships crumble, so no, there should be little to no emphasis upon infatuation as it reflects upon the two in a relationship. The most common example is the ones made by modern teenagers: The hunk and the head cheerleader as a couple, that is until a hotter and more popular girl comes along (flavor of the week) or he does something stupid like forget a special date.

One such example of overemphasis is represented in the case of Romeo and Juliet, in which the story of infatuation becomes blatantly obvious, two teenagers, in unwelcoming circumstances, fall in love. How they fall in love is an example of the love at first sight scenario. With this utter infatuation, they have for each other, Juliet, apart from Romeo, thinks about him uncontrollably. Likewise, Romeo cannot get Juliet off of his mind. This Greek tragedy (figuratively speaking), gives a great example of infatuating thoughts, is a rather overcoming recollection of one on the other's mind.

Another such example of overemphasis occurred in my own life (it occurred with intensity before I dove into the aspects of this topic). Seeing a beautiful girl, and thinking about them 24/7, to the point of insanity and leading up to what? Nothing for that feeling eventually died away and returned again, focusing on somebody new. Infatuation is not to be trusted.

The Greek term Eros, better describes infatuation as: "The first type of love we are all familiar with" (Love in Greek). This is the kind of love that first attracts us to the opposite sex (sounds like infatuation may have some use yet), and can also be triggered off, not by looks, but by aroma. Sadly, not many get pass the first step, the infatuation scene. This scene is one in which there are many thoughts about the future, thoughts of how they can please you (including sexual), and thoughts of how attracting they are. Then, there is this thought… this person is perfect for me because of their character and this person is almost a mirror image of the other. A mirror image is somebody exactly like you in every way (kind of makes for a very boring life). This perfection is often followed by the cliché, "We just clicked" (Love in Greek). However, can anyone be perfect? With the answer here, we see why infatuation is a dangerous thing to continue a relationship with and recognize that infatuation is a necessity only in the slightest, triggering the start of the relationship between the two.

Then love comes into play. True love, which needs to be symptomized as well as defined. Not to define it as: I love my dog , I love my family, I love my car, or I love the girl who walk passed me in that revealing outfit (which to a point is similar to attraction), but to define it as true, real, affectionate love. "Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person that is according to dictionary.com, which has 28 different definitions for love, (only one definition would actually work, you can see why it gets confused). Some symptoms of being in love that give off this message are:

1. Being accepting of the other person, "Who they are, is perfectly fine with you" (What is love).
   
2. Being appreciative of everything about the other person.
   
3. Being consumed by thoughts of them (make sure as to not confuse this with infatuation).
   
4. Being selfless: Wanting the other person to feel good by making them happy or healthy, "We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally, and emotionally" (What is love).
   
5. Having a willingness to sacrifice.
   
6. "Being with someone for hours upon days upon years, and not hating them" (Lewis, Bill).
   

The Greeks would choose to use Agape as this form of love. Agape is the highest form of love, it is an unconditional love. It is a love that, "in spite of their character flaws and weaknesses" (Love in Greek), continues whole heartedly and endures forever. Agape is the non-selfish form of love. Accept the person as they are, choose to love them every day, make the choice to love the Agape way, and let time be your tool to grow such an amazing and wonderful relationship.

Time plays an important role when it comes to relationships. However, for the case of infatuated love, time is ignored, or rather; infatuation is into the "Rush, rush; rush." I have been infatuated before, and recall the time when I was in first grade, I kissed a girl who went to the same day-care as me (although I was not into any sort of sexual thinking at the time) I can say now, through looking back, that I was indeed infatuated (for I could not stop thinking about her). It can be said the same for these two kids at the beach. Of course, the picture was taken to make it look as though they are truly in love, this can be supported through the photograph which makes it believable that the two kids are in love (an evident lie for they are too young to know what relational love is). Why are pictures so deceiving? Well, from the statement, "the camera does not lie even when it is used to quote a lie (John Berger)," making it difficult to argue with. So, how do you argue with "truth?" The most logical way, of course, is to understand that you cannot argue with "truth," but rather understand what truth is. So, stating as a fact that these children are not in love but are infatuated, that is to say without the sexual desire that is usually oriented with infatuation. Even before a relationship starts, "visions of the future," appear like commercials or pop-up ads in their heads. How can anyone be in an extreme absorption in another without taking the time to get to know the other person? It is more or less impossible without the help of time. For the very reason of time, emphasis must be lost to infatuation in the race against love.

So, how do you build a relationship that is eternal, a relationship that flows with real, lasting love? True love takes time, that is to say, that time is an important and necessary element. It is a necessary element of building a loving and lasting relationship. For the growing of the perfect plant is not done by simply having the seed, the soil, the sun, and the water. Likewise, a bottle of wine does not ferment the instance it is bottled. These things take…TIME. It is with plants and wine as much as it is with relationships, and eventual husband and wife covenants, time is required to grow into something extraordinary. Infatuation is in a big hurry, while love takes its time (Time and long-term go together). Time removes the blinders put up by infatuation; it clears out the clouds of the high concentration mating chemicals in the body. The chemicals being dopamine- making one feel good and norepinephrine- the "high of adrenaline." (Chemicals from cyberplanet.com/love/chem1) People who wait before rushing into marriage, will often discover what the "imperfections or the qualities that disqualify them from being acceptable that way or, they realize, that they are really in love, and rather than thinking, "that is a nice piece of *#%," they will become unwilling to part with the person a "Do not disappear from my life feeling" (Lewis, Bill). In this type of good relations, they often decide to get married and up spending the rest of their lives together (although that seems to be a scarce or rare exception now-a-days). Time will always reveal whether or not a relation will "stick like glue" or "rappel like a climber down from the top of a mountain." Too bad for the sake of time in relationships, that appearance is often looked at with greater importance.

It is too bad that relationships bring a sort of requirement baggage that the other person can never live up to. People have this perfect image in their heads, of a person with the "right body or studley figure," a requirement on the part of appearance that is often impossible to meet. It is from Hollywood, and the stars that come out of it, that these impossible standards for our love are established in the first place. The people follow the advice of Hollywood, but love does not highly focus on appearance, for nothing fades faster than beauty. How many people in the spotlight, ever stayed with one person; likewise how many people leave because of something miniscule like a disagreement over toilet tissue? The relationship of Barbra Walters, is one such example in which, she dated many men, and cycled through four husbands (Swing and a miss, infatuation is not succeeding to well right now). And who could forget the most recent love life of Jennifer Anniston "Married, divorced, breakup, back together." People look up to the media and thus get led astray when it comes to the important things like love. For example most of the general public will claim that, "They were in love." Remember, the body means nothing without the soul behind it. And how do you get to know the soul behind it if you are falling for that "super-model" figure? By Hollywood's definition, love is based upon fame, looks, and amount of money. They focus on things that often cannot change or worse, they focus on things that fade. Although there is still a bit to go, Love has already surpassed the necessary 270 votes.

Is infatuation then, a bad thing? Well, according to Mark Miller (A friend of mine who has been married 27 years), "For any guy with a pulse to be taken aback by a beautiful, charming woman is perfectly natural, thus I say to you, that infatuation is not a bad thing unless it is mistaken for love." Thus, it is good to be attracted to the other person. Good heavens, if the person in question had no attraction to that special person's appearance, it would most likely end up being less fulfilling. However, I disagree, they can be attracted without having the symptoms of infatuation (for in my recent days, I have felt attracted, while the baggage of infatuation where burned and destroyed before they could get a grip on my mind). Furthermore, do not focus directly upon appearance, for too much emphasis is put upon appearance. By my own interpretation of media, I have discovered that men and women alike have often stated or thought of their spouse or potential partner, "You have to be thin, you have to have the perfect nose, you have to act a certain way." Making unreasonable expectations for your spouse is not only ridiculous, but it is also selfish. There was a podcast from Focus on the Family, hosted by Doctor Dobson, in which there was a great lesson on appearance. To make a long story short, the guy did not focus on his girlfriend's "Fat legs," because at least they worked, compared to his mothers, who moved about in a wheelchair. If they are healthy and have functioning body parts, be thankful, if not love them for who they are instead of what they are. Another quote from Mr. Miller is, "I still like to watch her walk across a room, and her smile still goes right through me." Here he is not infatuated with her but still very much attracted to her. Of course it is clear that looks play a role in keeping their marriage strung together, though they do not have a heavy emphasis upon it any more (time does that to a person). Love takes attraction and flips it on its head, reshaping attraction into a puzzle piece rather than the final picture. Do not view them as eye candy or just another "perfect" piece of meat, but as a human being, a person with a "soul." Of course, it will help if you also build up foundations for a relationship.

What is it that makes a good foundation and why is a foundation necessary for a long-term relationship? Is it made of rock or of sand? In the same way, a relationship needs to be built upon a strong foundation, so that when storms come, it will hold firm. The foundation of an infatuated relationship is "made of sand" because, it was put up and ready, before they have even begun to research the other person. Try staking walls on a foundation of sand (nothing good will come of it). A foundation is highly necessary for the walls of a relationship to remain standing when the storm hits. A good foundation is based on trust.

Trusting someone is not exactly the easiest thing to do, but is necessary, for it is one of the cornerstones for founding a long-term relationship. Trust is easier to break than it is to earn. A lie will completely shatter any trust earned, while the truth will slowly build a person's trust with another over repeated accounts of responsibility.

What is it about polar opposites that seem to compel? A positive and a negative stick together, while two positives will repel. What is it about two people that after the love is gone they pull apart? Well, like magnets, people break up for being too similar and they repel from one another. Being alike makes them bored and thus these relationships shatter because people cannot stand being with themselves, they need a challenge, a little change now and again or they need a different perspective. That is why; people with an equal interest in the same things as another become "just friends." With infatuation, blocking the real visualization, the first encounter makes them seem fun, but when it fades, the excitement fades with it and when the excitement fades, the two feel nauseated at the mention of the other. This pulling apart only leads to scars. This unfortunate end to an infatuated relationship is similar to a rose. It looks appealing at first sight, and is said to be beautiful, but after its beautiful state, it withers and dies. Then it grows again the following year different than before. However, if you can get close enough, the thorns will prick you. This prick is what often brings the wedge between the two. While love, on the other hand has an interesting way of gluing people together (so to speak).

Love is like a spider's web. It is a beautiful thing, but it is sticky and well hidden in most cases. When trails of love come (like a fly that comes in and ruins the web), they draw closer together and thus strengthen their relationship (like the repairing of the spiders web), but like a spiders web, it takes time to build. This love was a special thing, it took time to grow, and though they where opposites, they grew closer to each other. This attraction can be seen as "the miracle through which two become one, without, however, completely suppressing the duality (Love and Lust)." Opposites are a very good thing. A weakness in one, is strength in the other, and thus when the two come together, they complement each other (much like the way that two halves make a whole), by making each other's weaknesses their strong points, by strengthening them as a whole, rather than as two separate unities. Of course there is always the question why do opposites attract like this? Well, for the analogy of food, fruit and candy (like chocolate strawberries), an often unlikely combination, creates something fantabulous, so it is better that opposites or people with many differences attract. Why then, does it seem like love is blind?

Love is not blind. Instead, Infatuation is blind. Infatuation lacks the necessary elucidation to see somebody as they truly are, thus creating a sort of blindness. This blindness seems to restrict the closeness of the two, and when the infatuation fades, and "I do not love them anymore" floats to the surface, the sort of absentmindedness of the relationship, along with their distances result only as a huge chasm. Thus, "Infatuation or infatuated love is the intense state of passion experienced in the absence of intimacy and commitment" (Love is blind), at least it would seem that way. They went through all the emotions, progressing the relationship like it was a rat race, trying to keep the hyped feelings there (while at the same time only seeing themselves) and when they view one another, it is as though they are drunk in love and thus see as though "blind either to imperfections of the object of their infatuation or, more important for our focus, to the differences in attitude between themselves and the adored one" (Love is blind). To say that, infatuation is like a poisonous snake ready to strike and drain the life from you, is to say that a snake is actually more dangerous than is snakely (ex. humanly) possible. Is there any way to kill this snake? Killing the snake is easier than it sounds. Knowing what infatuation is will help to destroy it before it can grow into a monster. This is something that has recently occurred in my own life, infatuation I destroyed before it started, so as to not develop a superficial relationship. Love being blind, is almost the same as not really caring, or better yet it means to be selfish, thinking only about how this person will benefit you (A huge symptom of infatuation). Thus avoiding the blindness altogether is one of the major ways to killing the snake. The second way is by caring and respecting the object of your affection and is by far, the best anonym of blind love. Caring, thus is best cure to the deadly snake infatuation.

Caring for somebody means:

1. To be a protector
   
2. You listen to what they have to say
   
3. That you love them as a person.
   

Thus, "on logical grounds love at first sight could never exist (Love at first sight)." The first look does not cause them to fall in love with each other, but learning about the other person and caring for their needs, while discarding their own needs for their spouse, is one of the ways that help inform them that they are in love. In the photo, Hermione hides in Ron's shoulder; a sense of protection comes over her, and this gives an example of a caring man. Caring, however, is not just about protection and security, it is about:

1. Listening - Caring is listening because many people often hear some of what the other has to say, and interjects, often trying to solve the others problem, only to make them mad. To show then, that you care for them when you are listening to what they have to say, do not interject your own comments, instead listen to their whole speech, understand how they are felling, and instead of trying to solve it for them, comfort them and be the shoulder for them to cry on (this is so hard for us men)
   
2. Respect - Respecting their feelings so much, you want their happiness at the expense of your own.
   
3. Selflessness - Can anyone be so caring as to sacrifice themselves, "Loving not what you can do for me, but loving them for who they are and what they are and wanting your happiness, even in a crisis (Wendy Bergen Story)." Think of truly loving someone so much, that you care for them no matter what circumstance like in the movie "Here on Earth," caring is: "Not wanting to get between you and another guy." In another instance: the man feels like a failure because he lost his job and can no longer provide, and instead of his wife leaving him, she says "I love you. I will never leave you. We will get through this thing together (Miller, Mark)." Show there is a heart inside, stick it out when things are tough.
   

Caring then, is the trust or respect given to them in a way that grants a sense of security, opening themselves up and revealing their deep dark secrets, and believing this person will not go around sharing it with others. Now, if ever time that was hard and there seemed to be no hope in sight, you dropped them like a rock, you would go through people faster than Hollywood does and be filled with emotional scars. For according to Dr. Dobson, "in the first 36 hours there will be disappointment, and things will get tough; in 48 hours you are going to cross them" and the road will become rugged. True love thus cares, is respectful, it listens without interruption, is a decision made every day, and it is willing to ride out the storm. There are even examples of love throughout the scriptures.

The biblical example of infatuation is described in the books of kings, where it talks about Solomon's life. Solomon, the wisest person ever to rule a people, struggled with infatuation like nobody's business. Near the end of his life, Solomon had a total of seven hundred wives as indicated by 1 Kings 11:1-4 "1 King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh's daughter—Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites. 2 They were from nations about which the LORD had told the Israelites, "You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods." Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. 3 He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. 4 As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the LORD his God, as the heart of David his father had been." If infatuation and the influence of "beautiful" women can turn your heart from a set course, than it is safer to understand it, so one doesn't establish a false relationship.

In the same sense, true love can be found in the bible, as in 1 Samuel 18:1-4, "1 After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself. 2 From that day Saul kept David with him and did not let him return to his father's house. 3 And Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. 4 Jonathan took off the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, and even his sword, his bow and his belt." Jonathan and David had such a relationship with each other, that they would do anything for each other. These two where more than friends, they were "soul mates (Not homosexuals)," that would die for each other. Can anyone being born to a king, love a friend so much, to allow that friend their right as the next king? The answer here is an unconditional love, a non-jealous love, and an agape love. Be like Jonathan and David and instead of putting restrictions, on who you love, love them unconditionally.

Seek love therefore, for it is patient and kind. It is self-less and giving. Is seeks the happiness of the other at the cost of your own. Develop relationships in such a way that you will secure lasting relationships. Relationships are built on love; any infatuational influence will only corrupt the chances. Therefore, in as much as it was with Jonathan and David, be represented in your own lives. Stay away from superficial relationships based upon Hollywood's standards and remember, love people so much that you would be willing to give your life for them… and live your life for them (the harder of the two). In this battle, according to the definitions and symptoms, according to time, according to attraction based on appearance, according to the building of a strong foundation, according to repelling or attracting, according to the eyes of the heart, and according to the bible, infatuation is a worthless piece of dirt, while at the same time love is so precious, that one would sell all they have to find it and buy it… if that where possible.

 

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The true gospel presentation

For all you non religious people... I am not religious nor will I ever become religious.
I am a Christian, which is my lifestyle and The truth.

God promises trials tribulation and persecution NOT your best life now.
God is not waiting to be "let in to your heart."
When you say a loving God would not send someone to hell you make a God to suite yourself
Everything is in God's preordained plan.
Nothing has ever evolved... Serious fossils found with blood in them... I know that is impossible if they are more than 6000 yrs old. That is how old this earth is roughly 6000 yrs not billions of years with a few million more tacked on every year by our "top" scientists. You will never ever get something from nothing and more than that something with structure will never come from an explosion.
Jesus said, "I am the THE way."
God does not want you to repeat some prayer after some dude trying to increase the number of their church. He wants the prayer to be from you alone from your heart driven by your conscience.
Greatness scale... A Child, Spouse, Boss, Judge........................ ......................God
Repeat the same offense each time and the punishment gets worse bribes and "good deeds" will not help you.

Let me guess you think your a good person?

Why do you think you are good.

Same ol story your not as bad as say.....

You know something I am far more deserving of Hell then you are but thats not my point. Heres how to tell if God should send us to tell by looking at the Mirror of God's law, the ten commandments.

Have you ever told a lie? What does that make you??? Right a liar. Ever stolen anything like change from your parents, songs off the internet, or something else regardless of its value. Well that would make you a thief. Ever said O.M.G? Thats called blasphemy taking God's name and using dragging it through the mud. How but adultery? No... Well look at this Jesus said if you look with lust you commit adultery already in your heart. Have you ever looked with lust...that is had sexual desire for them in your heart? Ever hated someone or been really angry with them? This hatred this anger is the same thing as murder of the heart. Only looking at 5 of the 10 commandments I'd say I've already failed... And you know what that means Im guilty and should go to hell. That concerned me a long time ago, but then I got to know Jesus, God's son who gave his life to save a wretched sinner like me. He said no one comes to the father but through me. So Repent if you have been convinced you are a sinner. and put your faith in Jesus to save you.

At least chew on the things you have read today. Your eternity is so important and 10 out of 10 people die thats a 100% morality rate. You should think about it now, act now for you dont know if your next breathe could be your last.

On Thrust

Trust is a big issue. Some people give it freely, and some hold it back. What's the point really? Well if you change the amount of trust given to people you meet in the future, based on the people you met in the past, how are you giving that new person equal opportunity to gain a better level of trust? Sure you shouldn't trust people flat off, that'd be stupid. What I'm saying is that they should get a limited amount of trust to start and as you get to know them, that trust can significantly build itself, or destroy itself but, you've got to give them a chance.

Is it really going to benefit you if you base your trust on past experiences? My guess is probably not, Sure, I've had my share in bad experiences but, that doesn't mean I have to fold into a little box and go into hiding. Come to think of it, I've done, for the most part, the exact opposite. I can put trust into people based on how well I know them. For example an acquainted person, I might tell how wonderful my day was, while I'd tell a family member or close friend know that I like a certain thing or person, something personal that the general public doesn't need to know!

One such definition of trust is as follows: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something; one in which confidence is placed.

Of course, trust really comes down to you! If you can't trust yourself, odds are you can't trust others either!

So ask yourself this question, do you trust yourself?

Right and Wrong

Who decides whats right or wrong?
What makes something wrong?
Can someone who thinks differently be wrong?
If something has been one way for millenniums why do they need to be redefined?

The first 2 questions are similar, according to the world the individual decides whats right and wrong in their own eyes in which case makes it right or wrong to them. Whats wrong with this thinking? Well lets see here... You have a person who... believes it is right and justified to kill or rape someone. Now according to the law it is wrong, but according to the individual its right... the question here is who is right for they can't both be right.
Now because there can be only 1 truth right for every situation, there is in the same instance only one right and wrong for things like religion and morals.
Different religions should never partner with one another, you degrade each other, and drive the rest of us true followers of our faith bonkers. No sorry, A Jehovah's witness and a Christian and a Mormon all worship different Gods. No way around that. So someone has to be wrong... Sure hope its not the Christian... I would hate not knowing whether I'm Going to Heaven or Hell and working my &^* off so I can get to Heaven is way to much. We should be taken to a Higher standard by our God than by the Judges of man, therefore we should all be doomed. Oh please Mr. Judge I've done all these good things let me go... HAHAHAHA not gonna happen your doomed for life. Come on Now seriously you want to have something you can count of as absolute something that says Yes you are going to Heaven, and it has nothing to do with anything you can do in the world, but rather what you can do in heart and soul. Let your conscience turn to God. God does not improve your life, he isnt there waiting to be "accepted" God does love... but hes a just lover. You yourselves hate punishment and demand that our children not be punished either. Its no wonder right and wrong have gotten squishy.

Come on someone You think I am wrong say it.... Its really not that hard.. Oh wait yeah it is in the world Saying someones wrong is like cusing them out apparently. I could care less about was is culturly acceptable in the world... YOUR WRONG IF YOU THINK WE CAME FROM MONKEYS. YOUR WRONG IF YOU VALUE US WITH THE OTHERS ANIMALS. AND YOUR WRONG IF YOU BELIEVE THEIR IS MORE THAN 1 WAY TO GOD.

For over 2000 years life has been valued. Then somebody went and got jealous of somebody else's miscommunication to another indiviudal who ended a life. So the jealousy lead to meetings where all of the sudden people want to justify killing. 8 days in the womb 1 feels pain. But you cant handle that you have to kill the defensless.... HUMAN BEING. Why???? Because you dont want to have to be responsible for the child so you would rather end that life then care for it... Idiot stop sleeping around you honestly thing the f*^&ing is so much fun you should be willing to accept any and everything that emerges from it.
Oh and BTW your parents where pro-life...Proff of that is the fact that your reading this now.
So take that and soak in it. You should never justify killing BABIES.
Let us just twist another defintion like we did with seperation of church and state and make Murder just mean something different. In fact lets twist it some much people get confused if it is actually legal to kill their neighbor or not. Its sad you would rather protect animals who are nothing instead of a human life that is everything... The president, an inventor, a doctor of medicine who finds a cure to cancer. How in the Galaxy could anyone want such an evil demenostration of man and his power over the weak and innocent?